🍀Become less judgemental- Issue 213

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The aim of this week newsletter is to understand the pitfalls of being judgemental and how you can become a better at it.

Becoming less judgmental is an essential skill to become more acceptable to lead with power at your disposal. But inculcating and thereafter implementing this vital life skills will require substantial effort.

We live in a world where we are continually asked to render judgments or ratings - about products and experiences and these relentless campaigns get us in the habit of judging. Yet many of these judgments turn out to be wrong. For instance, there is only a very small correlation between student ratings of teachers and objective measures of student learning. So in this context , it’s safe to say that more objectively learning is measured, the less likely it is to be related to the evaluations.

One reason to become less judgmental is that our judgments are often neither accurate nor helpful.

Nonetheless, extensive evidence from social psychology indicates that “many day-to-day impressions and judgments of others occur rapidly, unwittingly, and intuitively. A fleeting glimpse or a mere glance can lead to an instantaneous evaluating judgment. Once made, such judgments provide the anchor on which subsequent judgments are realised.

People form judgments of others in about ten seconds, and these judgments often proved remarkably unstable. So, becoming less judgmental is not only a vital life skill but do require serious efforts.

There are two problems arise from making judgments of others. First, to get things done, critical relationships need to work. This fact is particularly true in organizational contexts, which are characterised interdependence. The fact that your ability to get things done depends importantly on others’ actions. Once someone has formed a negative judgment of another about their competence, morality, deservingness of the position they hold, and so forth, it is difficult to completely hide the content of that judgment. And if it is a negative judgment, that makes forming a positive relationship with the other person to accomplish an interdependent task less likely.

Our judgments often interfere with many of our relationships.

Second, judgment is a source of unhappiness and discontent, because in comparing with what we think should be, lead to frustration and negative affect. That is why there are many recommendations to be less judgmental.

Mother Teresa famously said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

My Personal advise, “Be curious, not judgmental.”

Very simply, sorting all happenings into ‘like’ or ‘dislike’ bins gets in the way of dealing with the ever changing world and potential hindrances in our own enlightenment in this regard. It is prudent to say that Judgment do gets in the way of building helpful interpersonal relationships and sets us up for unhappiness, and probably this is one of the reason to delay quick judgments.

Remember: 👇

Making judgments, often render people less effective in navigating their interpersonal environment.

Take good care & hope you have enjoyed reading this week's dose of ‘Mindful Productivity & Cerebral Happiness’.

Joe

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